What to do about perfectionism
Written by Mystic on Saturday, January 19, 2008 Well, the first step is to realize that perfection is an illusion that is unattainable. The next step is to challenge the self-defeating thoughts and behaviors that fuel perfectionism. Some of the following strategies may help:
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Set realistic and reachable goals based on your own wants and needs and what you've accomplished in the past. This will enable you to achieve and also will lead to a greater sense of self-esteem.
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Experiment with your standards for success. Choose any activity and instead of aiming for 100%, try for 90%, 80% or even 60% success. This will help you to realize that world does not end when you're not perfect.
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Focus on the process of doing an activity not just on the end result. Evaluate your success not only in terms of what you've accomplished but also in terms of how much you enjoyed your task. You know what? There can be value in the process of pursuing a goal.
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Use feelings of anxiety and depression as opportunities to ask yourself, " Have I set up impossible expectations for myself in this situation?"
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Confront the fears that may be behind your perfectionism by asking yourself," What am I afraid of? What is the worst thing that could happen?"
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Recognize that many positive things can be learnt from the mistakes you make. Whenever you commit a blunder just ask yourself, What can I learn from this experience?
In the end, I'll just like to say that perfectionists often under-perform in all areas of life. Flexible thinkers on the other hand tend to be more successful, happier and more balanced!
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